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What to tell at a funeral


If you have to participate in a funeral of the relative, friend or acquaintance, it is quite possible that you will have a need to tell the funeral speech during the ceremony. How to find the right words wouldn't have been breaking any rules of common decency, you will learn from this article.

Before telling the funeral speech, formulate the thought: make sure that it was laconic. If it is difficult for you to make it, writetheseson the paper and learn the words. During the speech it is important not to rely on improvisation: you should remember that family members can apprehend muffled words as the sign of disrespect.

What can be chosen as theses? For example, personal qualities of the dead: diligence, responsibility, decency, kindness, etc. It is also possible to remember an interesting true-life story with the participation of the dead. For example, you can tell about how the dead helped out you, helped with difficult business. Besides, you have the right to sound why he was appreciated.

You should not tell something bad, for example, to emphasize shortcomings of person who has passed into the other world. Even if in soul it is difficult for you to find something good in the dead, you speak only about his good parties. So, it is possible to tell about the grumbling person that he was principled, and it is possible to call carelessness as optimism and belief in the future. It is impossible to sound the secrets that was entrusted you in the funeral speech or to share gossips.

As the final phrase, you can choose a farewell, parting words to all gathered here. For example, if the person died as a result of a long illness, you may say, that he fought up to the end, never desponded and by that set an example of cheerfulness.

The funeral speech can have the following structure:

• address ("Dear friends!", "Brothers and sisters!", etc.);

• representation ("I am a cousin of the dead");

• description of the identity of the dead ("I would like to tell several words about the dead. He was wonderful, kind, very honest and decent person. I remember how in the childhood we spent with him much time at the grandmother in the village as to us it was cheerful. He was that guy who was not afraid of difficulties and always came to the rescue");

• condolence ("Would like to express condolences to all. It is big loss for us");

• parting words ("In such sad day I would like to ask all attendees to remember Ivan only good");

• end ("Eternal rest grant unto his!").

Funeral speeches are delivered, as a rule, during the wake. As the leader of a ceremony the relative or the dead's friend able to constrain the emotions can act. Words of condolences are expressed on degree of proximity and relationship, from family members to more distant relatives and friends, and on seniority, from seniors to younger

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